May you release anything from 2017 that wasn’t serving you and be renewed to receive all of Gods blessings in 2018!
Share what you are releasing below!!!
I release not owning my power! I release the hurt from that negative relationship and I am renewed in Jesus name!
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Check out my published article in Nia Magazine!
Super excited about it. Pray it blesses you.
ORIGINAL POST HERE: http://www.niamagazine.com/5-ways-to-live-confidently/
“With confidence, you have won before you have started” – Marcus Garvey
When you think about those people who are successful and you aspire to be like, such as Oprah, Martha Stewart, Farrah Gray, the late Steve Jobs, Bill Gates or even the power music couple Jay-Z and Beyonce’, what is the common character trait that they possess?
The answer…CONFIDENCE!
Each believe and have firm trust in not only their talent, but also themselves. And because confidence is contagious, we as viewers believe in them.
It’s been stated that the number one reason people never take the leap of faith to do those things they love and become who they are destined to be, is: a lack of confidence.
You’ve always wanted to quit the corporate life and start your own company but you say you can’t because you don’t have the money to do so. Well, here’s a newsflash – the lack of money is not the real issue.
A lack of confidence is.
Many of those moguls did not have the money to start their brands but they definitely possessed the confidence. I still remember Farrah Gray’s story shared on Oprah of how he sold painted rocks at the age of six and became a young millionaire with other business ventures by age fourteen; just because he knew he could.
With the quote that began this article, the young Farrah Gray won before he began! It’s time for you to do the same.
Here are 5 ways to Live Confidently. Now.
1. Know Who You Are
When you know who you are, and are accepting of who you are, you are not easily broken when someone else challenges you to be something different. This, I will admit, doesn’t happen overnight, but once you know who you are it becomes unshakeable.
Identify your strengths and opportunities, then learn how to celebrate your strengths in all that you do. If you don’t know what they are, start by completing a simple exercise: list five things that you do really well along with the top five things you know and love about yourself.
2. Know That Confidence Already Lives Inside of You
Reflect on moments from early childhood. The times before you became self-aware and were told you couldn’t do something.
I reflect back to the days when I wanted to climb trees simply because the boys were doing it. Everyday I would climb higher and higher. When the boys told me I couldn’t do it, I climbed higher to make fun of them. But when my granny told me that was not lady-like, I began to question myself.
Remember: you already possess confidence. You just need to re-ignite the fire inside to allow it to show through.
3. Kick Fear and Take the Risk!
That’s right, kick fear in the face and just jump. Take the risk now. You will not know the outcome until you actually do it. Assuming is just another way for fear to take control.
Taking a risk involves not always feeling safe and that is okay.
4. Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
Embracing the unknown and accepting uncomfortable situations is a key to living confidently. It goes perfectly with #3.
You have to accept that you can not plan everything. You do not know the outcome of all situations and sometimes, you will be challenged and uncomfortable. This is all a part of life. So live!
You have to step out of the familiar predictability of your comfort zone.
If you focus on the endpoint and not the process, you become more welcoming of the discomfort.
5. Begin and End with a Smile
It’s one of the simplest things in life to do that offers a large return. Smiling tricks the brain in thinking you are happy. And guess what? When you smile, you instantly become happy. It releases endorphins and reduces stress.
Step out and live confidently NOW. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow, so live boldly today.
So…
I’ve been teaching a course at church entitled Teen K.I.C.K.
This week we completed and shared our vision boards. These girls were so empowered to share their desires for the future.
Here are some pics from tonights event:
This is just a taste of what will occur during my first Teen K.I.C.K. Conference August 27th!
I have been charged by God to give back to our youth and that’s exactly what I will do.
This conference is for teen girls only. The focus is on building and igniting each girls confidence to live boldly as Christ intends for them.
The young sophisticated confidence in our girls is dying.My God-given purpose is to enrich and empower while reviving what the enemy intended to die.
Will you help support this conference in being the very best possible?
Please check out here for more info and donate today!!
Looking to give your confidence the kickstart needed to open that small business, kickstart your career or even just kickstart your life?
Well, here is your opportunity!
This interactive presentation will help you:
• K. Know who you are and who you are destined to be
Get to the Core (assessment to find your purpose)
Who are you destined to be (How are you impacting and changing the world positively?)
• I. Ignite what already lives within
Discover what’s within
Feed, Nurture, Grow the gift
• C. Confidently speaking because body language speaks louder than the words
Speaking Non-verbally
Speaking Eloquently
• K. Keep it moving! Don’t let one life situation erode the confidence you’ve built
Overcoming obstacles
Join me July 19th & July 21st for this Continuing Education Course offered at Lamar Institute of Technology. I want to help you kickstart your confident living!
We are 6 months into the year and 6 more remaining.
How are your goals going for you? Are you hitting those milestones you set?
Statistics show many hit a plateau at the halfway point. Right before you hit the mile marker, only having 10lbs to your goal weight, gaining more clients, right before the business boost… the plateau comes and this post if for those who are experiencing this.
Here are 10 ways to revive your dreams and passions to have an even stronger back half of the year as you did in the beginning!
First please note,
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Say bye to the nay sayers. You are your only limit!!! —–> Stop sharing your eagle dreams with chickens. <—– click to tweet! They are not where you are. They will not understand your purpose for those specific actions and will only speak negatively to encourage you to go opposite of what you know you should be doing. Those who speak down on the things you do only do so because they were not brave enough to act upon the wild dreams God gave them. Say “boy bye” or “bye Felicia” and keep it moving!
Challenge Yourself. Are you up for the challenge to revive? At times when stress enters our world, our passion begins to die but if we deal with our stress differently, we can allow the passion to live on. Welcome balance into your life. Do not become overly consumed with one thing… Give time to you, breathe more and challenge yourself to deal with it differently so you can continue this journey! Challenge yourself and when you hit a milestone celebrate you. 
Be sure to share how you will revive your passions below!
So,
Beyonce’ dropped yet another amazing visual album and the world stopped… then carried on. 🙂
Although I absolutely loved her transparency, ability to showcase she is as human as the rest of us and creativity, I am using this forum to share how you too, can turn the lemons in life into lemonade and proudly carry on!
Here are the top 3 lessons (yes there were more) I learned from Lemonade, were able to relate with and so can you:
So this is the Lemonade and Tea from me with learnings from Bey!
What are yours?
P.S. If you are needing some help in turning your lemons into lemonade, reach out to me, The Confidence Coach today for your FREE 30 minute Consultation!
Be sure to share your learnings below!
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This is an oldie but goodie so I had to re-share this throwback!
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I was listening to Eric Thomas today for my daily personal development and I feel in love with something he said. He shared how we demand our money back on a specific thing when it states “30-day money back guarantee” and doesn’t deliver on it’s promise, but we don’t even do the same thing for ourselves. When was the last time you went hard for yourself? For your craft? How often do you stand behind your words, keep promises and follow through to your God-given purpose? It’s time to start now!!
Confidence is about being certain of something. A guarantee is a formal promise or assurance of something. I pose the question today of “Do you, guarantee you?”
Check out this great click from the Hip Hop Preacher and share what will you do differently today to focus follow through on what God has asked you to do with your life!!
May this message touch who it’s supposed to touch.
Be blessed!
How many times have you stressed about becoming successful? Stressed about becoming successful in your start up, in your marriage, or even in your battle with health? This quote right here from the lovely Ms Oprah sheds light on what we should really focus on.
The quality of being worthy of attention; importance… this is some deep *ish to consider.
So many in the social arena today gain attention attached with the price of selling their bodies, faux lifestyles, peace of mind and even souls.
When considering doing something that works toward being significant is much greater than that. How does your actions, offerings and services better the world for future generations to come? How do you impact or re-write history positively?
Really think on this.
Personally, I know what I am doing is BEYOND me, therefor it serves great significance. Simply stated, I do what I do because I KNOW this is my God-given duty. I know this is my God-given destiny and because of being obedient to His will for my life, I am a blessing to many. I am significant in my business. I am significant in my actions and speaking. Because of this, success overflows from me
AND THIS IS ALL THAT MATTERS.
Be blessed & and be sure to SHARE how you are working toward being significant below!!
So we are on Day 4 of #LiveIntentionally and since the focus of January is Wellness, I’ve broken each week down for digestible chunks that set you up for success in completing!
This week is all about Mental Health and today we are talking about how igniting your sense of smell increases positive mental health. Did you know there are over 200 versus in the bible that speak on the use of oils and fragrant incense? And I say… if it’s healing and greatness in the bible… than it’s something of a necessity for you and I!
Did you know smelling flowers before going to sleep can lead to more positive dreams? How fascinating right?! It’s been stated that “research is increasingly showing, smells can impact on almost everything, from dreams and emotions, driving, stress and gambling, to pain, concentration, memory and romance.”
Essential Oils are a must have for me! From needing relaxation to a morning pick me up, essential oils do the trick. Below is a list of some essential oils and benefits for your mental health.
“Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb that yields seed, and the fruit tree that yields fruit according to its kind, whose seed is in itself, on the earth”; and it was so. And the earth brought forth grass, the herb that yields seed according to its kind, and the tree that yields fruit, whose seed is in itself according to its kind. Genesis 1:11-12
| Lavender | relaxing, circulation, meditative. |
| Pine | Strengthening, stabilizing. |
| Angelica | anorexia, relieving hopelessness. |
| Basil | fatigue, general nerve tonic, anti-depressant, soporific, confusion, melancholy, mental clarity and concentration, reduces anxiety. (careful use prevents over-stimulation). |
| Bay | anti-hysteric, sedative, hypotensive |
| Bergamot | sedative for anxiety and antidepressant, stimulates appetite. |
| Chamomile(Roman) | calming, hyperactivity, good for use with children. |
| Clary Sage | sedative and nervine for insomnia, paranoia, panic, and hysteria. |
| Cypress | anxiety, confusion |
| Everlasting | grounding increases dream activity. |
| Juniper | apathy, paranoia, confusion, anxiety, nervous trembling and paralysis, diuretic |
| Marjoram | grief, insomnia. |
| Spikenard | grounding |
To be effective, it’s best to use these essential oils in it’s purest forms. Don’t settle for the synthetic or adulterated oils as they may be more cost friendly but will not have the same effects. If you suffer with nervous tension or anxiety attacking your mental health, try mixing these oils for a home remedy:
Nervous Tension
This blend will relax the nervous system, ease tension, and bring emotional equilibrium.
· 10 drops Lavender
· 10 drops Petitgrain
· 4 drops Roman Chamomile
Nervousness/Anxiety/Insomnia
This blend will profoundly relax the individual, induce sleep, and bring calm to an active mind that is preventing the correct emotional balance and total relaxation.
· 10 drops Lavender
· 10 drops Basil
· 3 drops Neroli
Get out there and ignite your sense of smell. Whether it’s with stopping to literally smell some flowers to stop anxiety, sniff some citrus to relax as it increases levels of the stress-related hormone norepinephrine, or take a wiff of coffee for a morning or mid-day pick me up (without the need to consume), smells can increase positive mental health and even heal the sick so take advantage.
Remember what the word says “Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord.” James 5:14(NKJV)
Share what scents awaken you, relax you, or just make you feel so damn happy in the comments below.
While doing weekly planning, I start by completing these questions:
I know you make look at my list and question why I do it this way. Well, I’ve recognized as an extreme organizational control freak, creating long to do lists do not always reap positive results. I’ve learned by shortening the list to the top three gives the opportunity to fulfill giving my best and give me the opportunity to stop, smell the flowers, have small celebrations and actually live and grow through the process versus just doing.
I believe in all work in life we should always showcase gratitude by ,recognizing what we’ve come from, learned, grown from and proud of. I did this on a continual basis when hosting my “TGIM Monday Motivational Moment” sharing Kisha’s Life Lessons. You can check out more here:
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I also believe it’s important to include personal development throughout each work week. This allows my to continue to grow. When looking for personal development I like to focus on my strengths to become a master at it versus focusing on my weaknesses. The reason for this is firstly, Focusing on the weakness isn’t always as inspiring and rarely produces outstanding results.
I believe it’s important to master your strengths because:
What are your strengths and how will you master them?
Real leaders not only recognize their strengths, they know the power in outsourcing their weaknesses. If you are not good at redesigning your website and you know that is a task that needs to be complete to take your blog to the next level… reach out to those that are the masters in that area.
Remember, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on that either. There are plenty of talented college students or freelancers waiting for the opportunity to showcase their work… take the risk and outsource your weakness. This doesn’t make you lazy… it makes you smart and a great business leader. It gives you the freedom to master and showcase your strengths and one of them is knowing when and where you need help. 🙂
REPEAT: ” I love change and easily adjust myself to new situations”
Remember, change is inevitable but growth is optional. We ALL will experience change and for some it may be a daunting task but if you speak positivity in the midst of and even before, you can prepare yourself for anything that comes your way.
It’s not about what you go through but how you choose to deal with those things you encounter.
Can you believe we have only 44 days until our new year of 2016??
So many times we wait until the new year to make a resolution or necessary changes to see different results in our lives.
But, did you know that only about 8% of those who set resolutions actually follow through with them? Speaking of your dreams without planning and action remains just a dream. No matter how great the dreams may be, action is required to make them a reality.
I want to help you change those dreams into goals and accomplish them. So I say, choose to start NOW… don’t wait until the first of the year but put action to it today. If you put action to it today, you are setting yourself up for more future success!
Email me today at bookCoachK@gmail.com for your FREE consultation. Together we will:
Reach out TODAY and let’s get started on those goals NOW!
God’s word says “be confident that He hears us whenever we ask for anything that pleases Him. And since we know He hears us when we make our requests, we also know that He give us what we ask for.” 1 John 5:13-15
When I dive into this message, a few of things stand out to me. Three particular things are
Being confident or as the dictionary states, “certain that something will happen“… is telling us that we shouldn’t question IF He heard our prayer. BUT that we must recognize that those requests are granted when they are pleasing to God and not against His will. This is how we will know He hears us and will grant our requests.
When I’m praying about a particular situation and wondering if God hears my cry, I remember the dissection of this scripture. It’s important to not always focus on what we need for ourselves but to recognize if what we want for ourselves, lives and those around us is in God’s will and pleasing to Him.
Food for thought,
Don’t fall for the traps of social media, magazines and television that states there is a specific kind of beauty. You are uniquely beautiful, made in His image and He doesn’t make any mistakes. Love who you are! Know your worth! Accept your flaws and don’t let go!
Just a friendly reminder to have a fabulous, exciting, loved Saturday!
I absolutely LOVED this article on Self Help Socialite by that I had to share!
You can view the original post here.
“The moment you decide you’re ready to start your own business and work for yourself, is absolutely thrilling! There is the wave of possibilities, ideas, and most of all freedom. But once the buzz of excitement settles, the daunting doubts and fears arise. How will I actually make money? How will people find me? Am I really good enough to make this happen?
For every triumph, it’s natural for concerns to follow suit. Whether starting a new business or stuck in an overwhelming cycle of entrepreneurship, it’s valid to have the highs and lows, however it’s all about how you choose to look at it. The setbacks you encounter can be perceived as a challenge to keep you small or as an opportunity to set you forth into greater knowledge and expansion.
Whether looking to transition from your full time job or exploring new ways to elevate your business, I can’t wait to share 4 strategies to boost your brand and allow your confidence to soar along the way!
1) Have a plan.
Sure, it sounds simple enough, but however detailed are the next steps you’re taking with your business? It’s easy for us to conjure up the big picture of what we want, however trying to actually get there is where we get overwhelmed and scattered.
Create the ideal vision of your business and start to scale backwards, step by step.
It’s more manageable to catch up to your goals when you have smaller ones leading up to it.
2) Be okay with your plan taking a new turn.
After creating a structured plan, leave some space for other opportunities to be presented too!
Sometimes we get so focused on what we think we want, that we don’t actually see that there may be another way.
Be open to a potential new venture and explore what it is about you and your business that is enticing to the prospect client/situation. Notice if it feels energetically aligned. If so, how can you implement this into your plan going forward?
3) Create a menu.
One of the reasons why my business struggled initially was because I was being too confined on my offerings.
When I broadened my services, my clientele grew as well!
To explore what else you’re able to do, create 3 lists; the first of everything you’re good at or have training in and the second of what you absolutely love to do. Start to mix and match and use the third list to write out offerings that you feel confident people would want and are willing to pay for. Find a cohesive thread that makes it easy to talk about having multiple services with potential clients or while networking that demonstrates variety without feeling scattered or misaligned.
4) Find your people.
Building an audience that you love and loves you back is a key aspect of your business. So where do you find them? Social media is a great platform to build a following, however if your message isn’t consistent and relatable, you’ll just be another avatar taking up space in the social media ethers. Ask yourself, what part of your business provides the most value? When people reach out to you, what do they want to know most? Use this information to lock in the expertise that you can put out.
People love clear and fast content that relates directly to them!
For example, you can create a Facebook group that engages people in your field of knowledge, create Instagram posts that inspire or even jump on Periscope to discuss how to solve a particular point! The more you connect with others that appreciate what you do, the more your confidence will accelerate and you’ll have more faith in the work you are doing.
The biggest key factor in starting your own business is to start today!
We often don’t get where we want with our business because we are spending too much time for everything to “line up”. Staying still or waiting creates a stuckness, which leaves us feeling stagnant and discouraged.
Starting where you’re at, even if it’s one small step, creates movement and builds momentum. It’s also in that motion that you are provided with clarity and guidance as to where to move next!
In the spirit of the present moment, what’s one small takeaway from this piece that you could start right now? I’d love to hear from you on exactly where you’re getting stuck and support you in taking action!”
Hope you enjoyed! Share your thoughts below!
Never forget this! No matter what detours you may have taken in life, you can still fulfill your God-given purpose. Never give up… go boldly in the direction of your dreams!
TGIM!
Who are you? A question that I’ve witnessed plague so many due to insecurities, disappointments, and unfulfilled goals/dreams. But did you know that you can speak words that hold power and can literally change your life if you are open to it?
The tongue is the most powerful tool on your body… use it to your advantage! Discover the power of starting your day saying “I Am” and fill in the blank after those words to describe who you desire to be if you are currently non there.
Examples are:
Try it and share your experience below. Remember… You are what you say you are so give some self-love and speak greatness!
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